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Nadia Meli's avatar

Thank you for this beautiful reflection Mariah. ❤️

I'm so sorry about your friends friend. This is horrible. I hope she is surrounded by support and love so she can heal.

It's so hard to exist in this world having to take care of your survival and feel like we have to care about everyone and everything else on top of that. Which, realistically, of course we can't do, definitely not all of the time.

But I think often we need to "break" and that being "balanced" can be a westernised ideal, something we do because we're so scared of that breaking and we want to avoid it at all costs. We are so terrified of pain. And understandably so, we're not equipped to handle it, because we're often so isolated.

Grieving in community, being held while doing so is a lot easier.

What does breaking even mean though? Every time in my life when I thought I couldn't take anymore grief, when it felt like I couldn't breathe anymore, l found that I expanded a little. Every time a little more. And that expansion is PAINFUL. But I don't see it as breaking. It's an opening that can feel like being broken I guess. But it happens every time. Our hearts can stretch so much and I believe that one reason for that is the pain that is shared. Whenever I felt I couldn't go any further, it was because I was alone. And every time I was able to keep grieving and be in the pain FULLY was because someone else was grieving with me.

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Wendy  Gray's avatar

Can writing about grieving be beautiful? Yes, you, Mariah, have demonstrated that! What a soul moving post of reflection. You have shown what it means to be a loving, compassionate soul in a world that needs more of us in tune with the grieving of others so that we can truly be loving, compassionate souls. Thank you for all of this. Big hugs and blessings to you! ~Wendy

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